Pro Life? How about Pro Dad?

First, this is a rant, not a blog. I hope you will indulge me anyway. There are few things I feel more passionate about, and I know I am not alone. Having been a single mom for over ten years, I know so many of you can, do and will relate. And I must warn you, it’s rated R, so I apologize in advance for any offense that may occur. Here we go…

According to Maria Sudekum Fisher, with the ASSOCIATED PRESS: Scott Roeder had confessed publicly before the trial and admitted again on the witness stand that he shot Tiller in the head in the foyer of the Wichita church where the doctor was serving as an usher. He testified he felt the lives of unborn children were in “immediate danger” because of Tiller. WICHITA, Kan. — A man who said he killed one of the most prominent abortion providers in the U.S. in order to save the lives of unborn children was convicted Friday of murder.

The jury deliberated for just 37 minutes before finding Scott Roeder, 51, of Kansas City, Missouri, guilty of premeditated, first-degree murder in the May 31 shooting death of Dr. George Tiller. Roeder faces a mandatory sentence of life in prison with the possibility of parole after 25 years when he is sentenced March 9.

No words can suffice for the tragic loss to the Tiller family. I can barely imagine how difficult and painful it must be to lose someone in this way. And as I sit and contemplate, I notice my own prejudice arise. Curious in the midst of this horror, I wonder why we curse the symptom and not the problem, or at least the propaganda.

Instead of spending our hard-earned money to fight what has now become a political issue rather than a moral one, why don’t we suck it up and deal with the real issues? One of which is staring us ALL in the face. Instead of killing the messenger, let’s look at the truth. We scream “Pro Life” instead of “Pro Dad.” Maybe women would stop getting so many abortions if certain men (millions and millions of them) stepped up to the plate and actually took responsibility for dipping their wicks every time the urge came along—and if women stopped using their bodies to lure men into relationships because of their own insecurity and low self-esteem. Perhaps that would be a start. Then, maybe, as a culture we would all be able to see the catastrophic effect our ignorance and/or narcissism is causing us all. Perhaps then we would recalibrate with our inner wisdom, which clearly points towards sex as a sacred act and parenting as a privilege, one which lasts FOR BOTH PARENTS for up to eighteen years. Translated: you PLAY, YOU STAY, and YOU PAY.

Perhaps if we were all more honest we would stop using abortion as birth control and address the underlying issues that motivate us to use sex as a means to an end.

So I say unless you unless you have yanked your uterus, tied up your boys, or live in alignment with the universal truth that we are each responsible for EVERYTHING in our own reality—including how children are raised and who they become as a result of your choices—I call bullshit and say let’s start a real campaign:

NEWS FLASH~ America goes Pro-DAD.

Men throughout the United States are suddenly becoming awake and aware of the awesome responsibility it is to have SEX. They are coming in droves to realize that a father’s role is to personally escort their children into the world, into relationship with the other, and into how to survive, understanding that a mother teaches the children how to love themselves. They are seeing that TOGETHER parents create an environment where the child is respected, safe and witnessed for their unique magnificence. (Apart, the single mother is deficient in her ability to emotionally and physically accommodate the child’s most basic human needs.) Not every sex act needs to result in a child; both men and women are realizing it is EVERYBODY’S responsibility to be clear on why they are doing what they most assuredly are doing! Abortion rates have dropped to an historic low.

Put that in your pipe and smoke it, Mr. Roeder!

January 31, 2010